Hot Young Singles in Your Area Looking to Meet

Okay, we all know that those ‘hot singles’ are probably also looking for a little payment if you want to meet up with them right? Well, I do, at least. But even if you are aware of that fact, the ‘hot singles’ ads just perpetuate a culture that—in the grand scope of history—is brand spankin’ new: Self-presentation through Computer Mediated Communications.

Some people think that online dating is for losers, but that is quickly not becoming the case. Young people have made online dating and self-presentation more accessible and personal with the introduction of apps like Tinder and Grindr. The very idea of self-presentation through CMC is no longer limited to Facebook and Twitter. But nevertheless, the basic ideas are the same. What is your best attribute? Your butt? Let’s take a mirror selfie where you can only see half your face but a nice view of that big dairy aire. Are you lazy as all hell? Let’s post a picture of that one hike you were dragged to go on 3 years ago. It doesn’t matter if you spent the entire 2 hours taking photos of yourself! As long as it looked like you were doing something that normal human beings do.

What I’m trying to get at here is that we are all liars on the internet. That’s not a bad thing. Employers will check our social media accounts—we should try to look as professional or as perfect as possible. But we should maybe stop taking everything we see on these types of sites so personally. After all, just because my muscles look super defined in that beach pic Photoshop is a very real thing.

But to possibly counter that point, people actually seem to get a lot closer if they meet over CMC. With the concept of Hyperpersonal Communication, we’ve found that people are comfortable sharing information that they normally wouldn’t tell strangers. Perhaps, it’s the lack of a face, but men have reported and seemed to be much more willing to reveal personal details about themselves like personal feelings or thoughts. But do these relationships last? Or even produce any kind of romantic or sexual relationship? According to Match.com 72% of the people matched on their website end up getting married after less than a year of dating. So, it looks like this can actually work?

In class, we even discussed a study in which people would interact with someone online and FTF and they reported that they liked the person they were talking to online more. Because of the lack of social and verbal cues, we tend to fill in or fantasize about the major elements that we can assess when we are actually talking to a person face to face. I ultimately think that online dating and CMC could be something that changes the way we as humans date and find life partners. After all, those young hot singles in your area might be a lie, but who isn’t lying at this point anyway?